Japanese Tuitate ”衝立”
Usually, I love autumn with delicious seasonal food and coolness after the tough muggy summer weather. Well, right now I am having mixed feelings.
Finishing my mom and bro's memorial service, I started to think about my parents' house and the household belongings which I need to deal with at some
future date. For example, the picture below was taken at the front door of the house. The big wooden thing is called "tuitate, 衝立" in Japanese, hallstand or "screen" in English. As no one lives there now, my hubby is asking some people if they need it for their houses, including his relatives visited us this Sunday. I remember my mother was so excited and looked happy finding this tuitate and decorating in the front door about 40 years ago when they bought the house. Haha, actually I myself was not so fond of this as I thought it was not so lovely shape and big. It might fit to a Japanese restaurant or something. Today, I visited the house to vacuum, put some air in there and father at his care house; telling him in my mind that how should I do with my memories with all things... well, he was just staring at me (^^;)
I'm sure that was a nostalgic visit for you, my dear friend Miyako. Your parents' tuitate is lovely- so unique!
ReplyDeleteI hope you are able to deal with all the things that come with closing up a house without too much stress, although it is never easy.
I can understand your melancholy, I feel like that at Christmas, as it is when my dad passed, and his birthday was 3 days before, so I am never truly happy at the Christmas holidays. The tuitate is very unusual, could it be used in a garden? xo
ReplyDeletei understand your melancholy. letting go of 'things' from the past is very hard, even if they should be utilized by others and not just stored. it is hard to let go...
ReplyDeleteDearest Miyako san,
ReplyDeleteYou are right about this very unusual but quite heavy room screen or room divider. It is a beautiful piece of wood, very well preserved but it looks a bit odd and too heavy for the Japanese home. It needs a huge, open and tall building.
But you did well in telling your honest opinion. It is very emotional for going through the memorial service. The weather, fall beginning and sad thoughts about your Dad, whom you no longer can reach mentally. That makes one melancholic; no choice... But it is all part of life.
Will email you separate, so you know.
Hugs to you from the East of the USA to the Far East,
Mariette
Dearest Miyako san.
ReplyDeleteWhat is going to has before?
I don't to you thinking get over that beautiful decorating just forgot about good things.
Anata no Otosan mo yorokonde o-rare-masu.
Daisuki na Miyuko san Australia kara Michiko desu.
Calling by from Our World Tuesday, sorry these are difficult times for you but it was a lovely post.
ReplyDeleteLovely post, great blog.
ReplyDeleteHi Miyako san. I think I understand you get mixed feelings as you can relate this time of year to sad memory. I hope you enjoy autumn, though. Tsuitate is beautiful. Have a great weekend, Miyako san!
ReplyDeleteDear Miyoka, The Tuitate is beautiful and I understand your melancholy about letting go. It is hard to let go.
ReplyDeleteHugs from Minnesota
I'm sorry to find you in difficult time. Blessings to you. I understand your melancholy... It is lovely....It's perfectly normal. I am your newest follower.
ReplyDeleteHi dear Miyako. I can imagine how nostalgic you probably felt when you visited your parents' old home. I had to do the same after my mum died, and I had to go and sort through all the things accumulated over a lifetime. Fortunately, my two daughters came along to help me. It must be quite distressing for you when your dad just looks at you and you are getting no response from him. This is an emotional time for you my friend. Be strong x
ReplyDeleteAutumn is melancolic and you had other reasons too ...
ReplyDeleteI can totally understand your sadness - it is hard to part with memorable items.
ReplyDeleteIt is a lovely piece.
Take care.
Hello Miyako, I can understand how you are feeling. It hard to let go of such memorable items from your families past. I do wish you peace and hugs. Take care!
ReplyDeleteDear Miyako,
ReplyDeleteI think that it is natural to feel melancholic at this time of year. I too am feeling a sense of loss and sadness. The Tuitate in your parents home is beautiful but I agree with you it would look more at home in a larger space. This is a sad time following the memorial and then having to deal with your parents home. You have many friends who are thinking of you and sending you their best wishes. Love and hugs, your bs
Dearest Miyako,
ReplyDeleteDid email you again about the problem with noreply-comment. Hope you will work it out this time.
Hugs from the USA,
Mariette
My sweet Miyako, I am so sorry for your melancholy. I experience it myself from time to time. I think when we feel that way, we should just embrace it and let if flow in and out in its natural state. To know the meaning of true happiness, we must also know true sadness. All my love to you, my beautiful friend. Mina
ReplyDeleteAs you said you were never found of the Tuitate but now your parents are gone you would look at in differently and it would take on a sentimental attachment this is normal it happens. Being melancholy is normal it comes with the loss of those we loved and thinking about them...
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